I love the concept that, "no," is a complete sentence. Being a Gen X from the Midwest, our culture has tended to fill in any silences and gaps in the conversation with useless fluff words and agreeableness in an attempt to help the other person (and ourselves) save face or avoid awkwardness. It would get us in trouble sometimes and get us agreeing to things we really shouldn't have. How fascinating to learn this as an adult: that we don't owe anyone the filler words and the complying. We can be just as kind to someone else (and especially to ourselves) by simply and pleasantly saying no.
I love the concept that, "no," is a complete sentence. Being a Gen X from the Midwest, our culture has tended to fill in any silences and gaps in the conversation with useless fluff words and agreeableness in an attempt to help the other person (and ourselves) save face or avoid awkwardness. It would get us in trouble sometimes and get us agreeing to things we really shouldn't have. How fascinating to learn this as an adult: that we don't owe anyone the filler words and the complying. We can be just as kind to someone else (and especially to ourselves) by simply and pleasantly saying no.
Absolutely Becky!! It’s gotten me into situations I don’t love for me in the past so I’m working on saying no more - and meaning it.
Same!